Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.
- C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
A British writer and lay theologian
On the basis of understandability, if we keep human relationships immediately after the Universe (least understood), we won’t be wrong. Unlike science, the outcome of relationships cannot be predicted or measured using a formula. No one has yet come up with an equation for a perfect relationship where we can substitute variables with the desired amount of love and time period we want the relationship to last and get the value of devotion, it may require as input from our end. Although there is one relationship which stands out all other and that is “Friendship”.
When a child is born, the very moment he or she is tied to certain relationships. With those comes a separate to do and not to do for both parties. Some paradigms which need to be matched for that bond to thrive. Friendship is nothing like any of them. Like our blood relations, this is not obligatory. Friendship is a bond we create, nurture or end at our own wills. In friendship we share a common list for both. There are no givers or takes. There are only two friends.
If you google to find any famous persona without a single friend, you won’t find any. Even the great minds of all times have at least one good friend. No one till today had made a “happily ever after” life without a friend. Everyone has a different reason to build this relationship. Some need a companion, while some a guide or an advisor. There could be n number of reasons, but can anyone of us imagine our lives without this bond?
Several psychology blogs state that “If a friendship lasts longer than 7 years, You are no longer just friends. You are family.” It could be possible that by making friends we are actually looking for a family beyond our family. Isn’t this true that we turn to our friends when we think, no one in the family will understand us? Or when we need a fair opinion of someone close.
When our kids start making friends at school, as a parent it is our responsibility to teach them how to sustain this bond. How to share, forgive and care about someone who is not their family but could be much more. Friendships which bloom at schools are the purest one. They are kind, naive and free of selfish motives. They don’t seek favours or approvals. But it can never be enforced. Like Michelle Kwan said, “if you have nothing in life but a good friend, you're rich.” We know she is not talking monetary rich but terms of mental satisfaction and isn’t achieving that the whole point of our life?
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