“Anger, resentment, and jealousy doesn't change the heart of others-- it only changes yours.”
- Shannon Alder
An inspirational author
As an adult, we know anger is a disagreeable trait. A wise person will try to conquer most times. But is anger just an adult emotion? No! Kids get angry too and unlike us, they don’t know how to manage it. There could be a number of reasons for kids to get angry and all are not always understood. They are not always angry for a broken toy or the superhero costume they are refused. A child can get angry when they feel disconnected when they are not heard. Or when they are anxious or insecure. Sounds like big words huh? Truth is kids do feel all these sentiments. They too get hurt. Today let us discuss what anger in kids means and how we should handle it.
- Kids, like any other human emotions, feel anger too. Therefore it is really important that we do not suppress their anger. Rather learn the reason and address it with example. Yes, adults do need to lead by the examples, or else all the efforts will go in vain.
- Finding out what triggers anger in your child will take some time. As a parent, we think that by default we know everything about our kids, which is not always true. Observe the pattern and then convey to them that you understand how they are feeling.
- There could be time, when even the child cannot explain the reason for certain extreme emotions or reactions, which is normal for certain age groups. At times like these, let them express their feelings. Allow them to talk about it.
- Never respond back with anger. Many times, the situation will be out of control, and you will lose the calm, but an ill-tempered response will only worsen the situation. The child may get further disconnected.
- If a situation that could have retriggered the anger but the kid manages to stay calm, reward the moment. Ask them what made them stop and tell them that you are proud of them.
- Introduce them with techniques to calm himself down, like taking deep breaths, practice forgiveness and meditation.
However, we agree that not all situations can be handled peacefully. If required, show them that they have disappointed you. That you expect better from them and how they should have behaved. Shaping and navigating a kid’s perceptions is a parent’s responsibility, for their better tomorrow.
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